what he had to share … and so it was that I found this “About Chance” page and soooo felt like I was reading “about me” … here! read for yourself and see what I mean …
I want to do and be more than I am.
I laugh easily and love deeply.
I’m not afraid to be vulnerable or transparent, in hopes that my success and defeats will help someone else
I notice things most people overlook.
I believe we’re here for something unique and specific, not just an ultimate
calling, but a daily something to do.
I’m on the lookout for tomorrow.
My truest passion is cultivating potential in others, to help them become who they were created to be.
I believe that’s why I’m here.”
Crazy Right??? I can totally relate!!!
:-) I would only add that I laugh loudly!!! … and I have no filter about worrying that others will hear me or how they will react to it …
I’m sooo feeling him right now … so I realize I want more … and I click on another post …
... He ate a bite of his sandwich and said, “I don’t think most people get this, and I learned it the hard way… Success and living a great life aren’t the same thing. You know? Success might hand you everything you ever thought you wanted … but nothing will keep you from your adventure more than chasing after comfort.
ahhh … now there’s a golden nugget if I’ve ever read one! I have been in networking opportunities where I have seen success … and heard stories of the “sacrifices” they say they experienced … that "I" also need to make in order to be successful … It’s sad … even if it’s short term … What are you willing to sacrifice??? For most of them who have reached the top level it was 2 years of sacrifices … but what if it takes a person longer than that??? Will their loved ones still be there? It was not pretty to see a father on stage … with his family … fumbling over his words and forgetting one of his daughters’ names … is that how I would like success to look like for me???
In all seriousness … is this something that I can see myself doing? … in order to “get ahead”? Sacrificing the time that I have with those that I love? Not in this lifetime!
“NEXT!” … Then months later, I read a blog … and give silent thanks for the validation I received in the message …
By now I’m intrigued … and want more of this guy … who is so insightful … it feels
like a part of me is writing this and I’m sooo hungry to read more …
... "Buddy, I didn’t know you in high school. I only see who you are and what you do today. And the guy standing in front of me is exceptional. Whatever mistakes you made back then … Whoever you were back then ... You’re not that guy anymore.”
They were simple words, but they seemed to come at the right time for him. He stood there stunned for a second, taking it in, trying to accept a thought he hadn’t truly considered for himself. And as he handed me my change, he looked me in the eyes and said, “Thank you. I really appreciate you saying that. I needed to hear it.”
I walked away half happy and half sad. And in the days since, that conversation
has got me thinking…
Why are we so brutal with ourselves?
Why do we nurse old failures like a wounded friend?
Why can we offer grace to a stranger, but not to ourselves?
Why do we replay our mistakes over and over in our minds – tolerating, even
embracing the lies that form?
Can we even see the progress we’ve made, or are we so fixated on our shortcomings that we’re blind to it?
Yes ... it’s taken me most of this lifetime to break thru these limiting beliefs …knocking down a couple bricks at a time … testing … breathing … feeling better … opening myself to knocking a few more down … it also required separation from those who continually reminded of all those negative
recordings from the past … a negativity fast … or as I prefer to call it positivity binging! I love to explore … and smile with others … laughing loudly might also be included … if it just makes the day for one person … how can I be more of that???
Oh yes! How can I be more
of that for others???
OMGOODNESS! … I just embarked on a couple of new opportunities … since January 5th … not what I was expecting to show up in my life … having a limited belief
moment … LOL … thinking that it would be a certain way … then surprised by what showed up, yet still recognizing it for what it is … exactly what I had asked for … an opportunity … a Pre-Launch Opportunity! … keeping the faith that I was in the perfect place at the perfect time!
Another validation … **slaps hands on cheeks with mouth and eyes wide open!**
... Recently, I asked her if she could start over, knowing what she knows now, what would she do differently. She didn’t hesitate. She said, ”It’s easy. I’d run with those who get it, and ignore those who don’t.”
I can’t get those words out of my mind.
... then she said “Chance, I spent so much time and energy trying to convince people I wasn’t crazy. And I
spent as much time trying to convince myself I wasn’t crazy, even though they
thought I was. What I know now is if someone doesn’t offer you their support, it doesn’t automatically mean they don’t love you or want you to win. It just means they don’t get it yet. That’s about them – not about you. Some people won’t get it until you’ve done it. And many times, the people you most expect to be there for you just won’t be. Don’t take it personally, and don’t waste precious time and energy trying to convince them to get on board. They’re not meant to be part of your team. Move on. Find someone who gets it. Find your team. Pour into them, and let them pour into you. Run with those who get it.”
I have been there, done that … for most of the past few years … yes … I can relate
to what she said … and I find my life is now filled with more ease and grace … when I no longer worry about what people are thinking of me … or feeling the need to defend myself … I’ve found myself in all this … one thing they were absolutely correct about … it’s not a networking opportunity … it’s a personal growth opportunity … I am grateful for all that has been part of my journey … when I finally discerned what it is that I did not want … once all that had been erased … what I saw … are the dreams … crystal clear … **blissed out**
Sending Huge Love to All … I hope that thru my own trials that I may benefit others … where they are able to recognize the lies and limiting beliefs along the way …
clearing them out … so they can see their truth … and realize their dreams … supporting with love and compassion … yessss that is the way!
I encourage you to hop on over to see Chance Scoggins ... and I’ll be checking in over there myself … a wonderful site where I can hang out, fill my cup with bliss … and drink it all in … Bless you Chance! Give the man some love here at his site: